November 01, 2002
Newest Dating Strategy

Well, since I have had almost no luck with gay men; maybe I should just consider switching to straight men. I could be their reason to *switch* sides.

Over the last year and a half, I have had pretty much horrible luck with guys. I invest a large amount of energy and feeling into the relationship. At thend end of two weeks or a month, I am told that we should just be friends or that he is too busy to date anyone or that he was never really interested in me in the first place. Come on, how lame is that one. A month isn't really enough time to get to know someone that well at all. Please, please just give me a chance here!

Anyone have any thoughts?

Posted by shawn at November 01, 2002 09:15 AM
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Ok, Shawn, let's face it:
1.)You have just about as good of a chance to have a good healthy relationship (the beyond friends kind) with a lesbian as with a straight man.

2.)Bad luck? Hell, look at my past relationship history over the past year and a half: really nothing until the summer, then only two weeks later did I find out that she failed to keep one of her first promises, and then two one week relationships (IF THEY EVEN REALLY COUNT) ended on their rude-as/s-all-hell parts.

Everyone has their crappy times in relationships, and if this bout is the worst, you ain't got nuthin' to complain about!

Posted by: Lin on November 3, 2002 08:17 PM

well, that might be helpful, but I have a couple hints for you too...
1) You are 23 years old. Don't be silly. Only 1% of the people you meet are normal. Well, then that wouldn't be considered normal.... ok, only 1% of the people you meet are emotionally stable enough to not be complete freaks or weirdos.
2) You don't have that much bad luck. Everyone who's not in a long term relationship pretty much has a 100% failure rate. Unless they've never dated anyone. Most long term relationships end, which makes it even worse, and I think 50% of marriages now end in divorce.
Considering the first item #1 as listed above, I would not consider you unlucky. The facts are:
a) you have dated several people in the last several years.
b) most of them are not included in the 1% of the emotionally stable population.
c) you have had the chance to cuddle/do other things with each person you have dated.
d) you won't meet too many people who aren't meeting or rapidly approaching the aforementioned 100% failure rate.

If you still need to look on the bright side, I personally enjoy the beginnings of relationships more than anything that comes after the beginning, historically.
My last relationship lasted almost four years.
My current relationship has passed the "beginning" phase.
At least you've had the chance for a lot of those "beginning" feelings, right?

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